When it comes to planning your wedding breakfast, one area that a lot of couple’s struggle with is seating plans. Working out where everyone can sit without upsetting or offending anyone is no easy task. It’s not just a case of sticking people in available spaces; you need to be systematic about your table planning. Of course, you could also opt to go for no seating plan – that’s something we’ll get to later on.
To make planning your wedding breakfast seating easier, we’ve put together this handy guide. Packed full of tips and tricks and do’s and don’ts, this guide will make getting your seating plans right, easier than you would think.
Don’t leave it until the last minute
Unless you want to spend the night before your wedding stressing about seating plans, don’t leave it until the last minute. Seating plans take a lot longer than you would think to perfect, and rushing them will only end in disaster. Aim to have your seating plans drawn up at least a week before your wedding. So that you don’t need to panic about your table plans as your big day draws closer.
Decide whether to have a top table
Traditionally, every wedding had a top table. However, today, a top table isn’t a must. Normally, the bride and groom, along with the rest of the wedding party, sit at the top table. The top table normally is a long one that faces out to the rest of the wedding. However, not all couples like the idea of being on display.
Some couples choose to swap the traditional long top table for a circular one, which is perfectly fine. While others prefer to sit on a romantic table for two and choose to seat the rest of the wedding party on other tables. Remember, where you seat everyone is a case of personal preference. It’s your wedding, so you can do whatever you like when it comes to seating.
Be careful about where you seat parents
That being said, parents can be a tricky one to work out when it comes to seating plans. Some parents like to sit on the top table – if there is one, with the bride and groom, while others are happier sitting on another table. What’s important is that all parents are treated the same, so that no one gets upset.
If either of you has divorced parents and step parents to think about, it may be worth splitting up the sets of parents. That way, you don’t need to stress about any arguments or upsets. Seat each set of parents with their close friends or family members, so that everyone has people to talk to and spend time with.
Of course, you don’t have to have a seating plan in place. If you’re not fussed, about where everyone will sit, then not having a seating plan could be a good option. Often, more relaxed wedding celebrations tend not to have specific seating. Instead, allowing guests to sit wherever they want to.
If you do opt to do this, it could be worth having a table reserved for you and your partner. This will give you a chance to have some much-needed one on one time and to spend some time enjoying each other’s company.
Seating plans can be a nightmare, but start planning early and there is no need to stress.