So, I am a mum of 2 and I have just now married the love of my love – and by doing that I have completely lost my identity – the what made me, me. The thing I have had my whole life, I have never known life without it – My Name.
For the past 6 years of being a mum I have got used to not having a forename. I either answer to ‘mum’ or ‘toms mum’ or ‘lucy’s mum’. I accept this as for some reason it’s much easier to remember children’s names than it is adults. I do exactly the same back to most of my children’s friends mums.
And now after having the most perfect day of my life I wake up the next day and I have a different name. I am a Mrs and not a Miss. It all feels very strange as I have been Miss Sarah Bourn for 32 years and after a fantastic party with family and friends I am now Mrs Sarah Johnson – Just like that!
I remember signing my marriage certificate as Miss Sarah Bourn so how did this happen? It seems to have instantly happened with no official ceremony – where was ‘Sarah Bourns’ goodbye ceremony?
Don’t get me wrong I am happy to have the same name as my husband, the children have it also, so it does seem to make our little family complete. But this is a very strange feeling that I am going to have to get used to. When your given your name as a child you obviously have no ‘getting used to it’ – you get what you are given and most of us don’t dislike our name or even think much about it – Okay, as a child I found the name ‘Sarah’ a bit popular. There were three Sarah’s in my year in school, so I was always known as Sarah Bourne – teachers, friends, parents, even invitations always said ‘Sarah Bourn’, never just Sarah. I’ve never really thought about my surname before – whether I liked it or not – it just seemed to work, kinda rolled off the tongue – Sarah Bourn!
So now I’m wondering how much of a ring ‘Sarah Johnson’ has to it?
I’m sure I’ll get used to it! In fact I know I will. It’ll just take time. The more I hear it called out at the doctors, see it written on letters, I sign it on cheques – It will soon feel like me!
So now I’m off to change my name on all official documents.