The most common question Googled by people in relationships is, how can you tell that your partner is ‘the one’?. You might be in love with your significant other but that doesn’t mean that they’re your soulmate, or does it? While some people claim to just know when they’ve found Mr or Mrs. Right, for others of us it’s just not that easy to tell.
If you’re panicking about whether your partner is ‘the one’, you’re in the right place. To help you decipher whether your other half is the person that you should spend the rest of your life with, we’ve put together this guide.
If your friends and family like your partner, that’s a good sign. These are the people that know you the best in the whole world, so if they don’t like someone you’ve got to wonder why. If most of your nearest and dearest love your significant other, then that’s a good sign that the two of you are meant to be. However, if you know your family aren’t sure about your partner, it might be time to ask them why. Sometimes it can simply be a personality thing, other times it can be because they think you deserve better. Either way, it’s best to know.
They’re your best friend
Your partner should be your very best friend. They should be the person that you can turn to to talk about anything. If you love watching superhero movies, it’s important that your partner does too. To work as a couple in the long-term, you and your partner need to have enough to talk about that your chatter never gets boring. You know how you could stay on the phone to your friend for hours chatting about anything and everything? Well, you and your partner should be able to do the same.
You share the same values
The fact that you both love nights in munching pizza and watching Netflix is, of course, a good sign. However, you can’t base your relationship on that. If you and your partner are destined to be together for the long haul, you need to share the same values. Knowing that you both want kids and expect to split the childcare equally is a good sign. As is, knowing that when parenthood comes your way, you both expect to have at least an hour to yourselves, each day. It’s these kinds of shared values that make a fantastic basis for a successful marriage.
They make you feel good
Your partner should be your biggest fan. The moment something good happens to you – be it a promotion or a free trip to Paris, they start bragging about how amazing you are. Another sign that they’re ‘the one’, is that they do everything that they can to make you feel special. Be it opening doors for you, making you a cup of coffee for when you first wake up, or some other cute little gesture, it doesn’t matter. Your partner should always put you first and make every effort to make you feel good.
To recap, if your friends and family love them, they’re your best friend (or one of them), and make you feel good, they just might be the one.